I wanted to take this opportunity to write about this topic because I have been blessed to be on both sides of the fence. At one time I was the self assured, confident athlete that felled many a foe with that weapon. I've also had the pleasure to be the coach and see the sport from an entirely different perspective. Even further, in my current position, I am afforded the opportunity to study what separates the truly great coaches from the rest. As a coach or athlete, it all comes down to the ability to both exert and submit to your ego when necessary.

In a coach/athlete relationship, the coach can usually see much more about the athlete, than the athlete can see about himself. Because of this perspective, the athlete that understands this will be the one that will submit his ego to the authority of the coach who is there to help him/her succeed. Ultimately, this will be the same athlete that grabs on to the Gold. Conversely, the coach who understands this is the one who realizes he doesn't always have all the answers and can submit his ego to those who do. Sometimes this means letting your athlete go, so that they can excel beyond the level you are capable of taking them. This trait when understood, is the sword of victory, or the instrument of defeat.

So, what determines the chasm between the best and the rest? It is me, or is it the coach? Never in history has there been an athlete in any sport that has made it to the top by themself. It has always been with the assistance and support of many others along the way. But most importantly, with the love and guidance of a coach.

The answer to the question? - You decide.

Brett Penager wrestled in college at the Ohio State University and coached at the University of Wisconsin - Steven Point. Brett later served for 10 years as the National Coaches Education Director for USA Wrestling. Brett now resides in Chicago, IL and runs the Panther Wrestling Club.