| The success types are the highly competitive leader types. They perform better under pressure because they thrive on it. They know what they want and they go after it. The avoidance types don't want failure, and they don't know how to succeed. They have developed a habit of losing, which is a very hard habit to break. A major difference between these two types is their effort to win. Success types know that they control their effort, so they prepare fully and they expect to win.
Avoidance types don't focus on their person effort. They are emotionally attached to results they can't control; they get anxious and try too hard when it's time to perform. When they are challenged by someone equal or better than they are, they often panic and lose quickly. They may want to win, but they aren't prepared to win - and they usually don't.
If you want to win so badly that you can't stand losing, practice, work hard and sacrifice. And do it every day, not just the day before a game. As long as you are willing to "pay the price" for victory, you will be a winner. That means putting more time in than your opponent; working harder; being more intense; and training smarter.
Only when you do all this will you have deserved the right to win; for you'll have earned it. When you reach this point, and the great feeling that comes with it, you'll never be afraid to fail again. Why should you? You'll be a successful type who has paid the price for winning. Enjoy it.
A quick way to become a loser is to want to win so badly that you become afraid to lose. When this happens, you get very cautious and you fail to reach your potential. You start to play it "safe." You tense up, get anxious and lose.
No matter what the outcome, you will never be a loser if you always look at an athletic contest as a valuable opportunity and learning experience. It is a chance for you to succeed, plus a way to discover weaknesses that need to be corrected. Winners seek the toughest competitions to test their own limits and determine what areas need to be developed more. If you have prepared correctly, you should go into a game or competition having every reason to expect to win. But if you don't - pick up the pieces and start again.
Don't worry waste your energy worrying about losing. Concentrate that energy towards your effort to improve. Valor grows by daring, fear by holding back. Dare and you might; hold back and you never will. So dare to be great!
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